It’s Not You, It’s Me

Candidate feedback; difficult to give, always expected.

As a recruiter, I already plead guilty to this crime. Having been a candidate myself, I know firsthand how mentally and emotionally discouraging the deafening silence of receiving no feedback feels.whoislimos-265482-unsplash

It is easy to write the top 10 things candidates need to do to blah blah blah, and contrary to naysayers, candidates have stepped up their interviewing game. So why put out these hoops for people like you and I to leap through just to leave them in the twilight zone?

People in vulnerable positions who have taken the time to present themselves to us, despite the emotional unemployment turmoil going on behind the scenes. Candidates who maneuver and lie to their current employers (this is hard yo!) to make last minute interviews. Candidates who take days off from their precious annual leave days to heed our call. Hale and hearty people who feign illnesses to their employers just to present themselves to us.

It is easy to let the power of decision-making get the better of us, we are all human. However, take some time each day to feel the pinch in someone else’s shoes. This I feel may bring back the humanity in us. This I do as a new year (work) resolution. This I have attempted to do from January 2018 – and still working on it. Having this in the back of my mind, I definitely give more feedback than I have previously given.

Just doing this has made a huge difference in the candidate-recruiter relationships I have nurtured.

People are usually grateful to hear anything but heart-wrenching silence. Candidates mostly crave constructive feedback. At the very least, people like you and I are grateful that in this noisy world overflowing with curricula vitae, you still remember they exist.

Granted, not everyone takes feedback in good stride. Either way, make it a habit to close every professional relationship on a good note. If not for anything, do it for the fun of karma.

That being said, if I have not returned your call or given you feedback, I apologize. It’s not you, it’s me.


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My name is Dami Akinwale and I’m a Recruiter at HRsource in Dubai. By day, you can find me networking with professionals within the Digital Media space. By night, I’m typically creating career-related content, digging through digital marketing news and featuring regularly updated job opportunities on Career Anecdotes©. Also, follow me on LinkedIn -

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